Mair Alight

(CNVC Certified Trainer)

Mair Alight


  • Developer of Jackal Cafe & Another Way spatial floor map used as a visual and experiential map of two "windows of perspective": Jackal/Judgement and Giraffe/Guessing.
  • Author  of "Compassionate Underwear Bear", a children's coloring book.  Compassionate Underwear Bear (CUB) guides two children lost in the woods to discover that blaming and complaining keep them lost - and sharing and caring help them find their way home. 
  • Co-Creator with Carol Chase of "Living NVC" DVD.
  • Author of "Tips and Tricks for Living NVC" 
  • Contributing author of stories in "The Healing Power of Empathy"

  • Trained and learned with Marshall Rosenberg (over 500 hours, multiple events including two International Intensive Trainings and an Experiment in Social Change, Switzerland (living with 65 people from 25 countries for 15 days) (2005)

  • Co-Creator of 4 weeks NVC Training in Addis Ababa, Ethiopia.
  • Co-Organizer, NVC Weekend Festival, August 2015, Vashon Island, Washington
  • Co-Founder with Aya Caspi, Showing Up For Love Teleseries for Parents and Grandparents (2013-2014).
  • Founder of NVC I Am Coaching Teleseries
  • Founder of Needs-Based Phone Empathy and Coaching Teleseries
  • Convener & Organizer of the October 2nd 24 Hour Global Empathy Call by phone or Skype. 2009-2015.
  • Chief Empathy Trainer, Empathy App Trial May/June 2014  (Empathy Connection with Live Empathizers in Real Time via Telephone).
  • Co-Founder with Fred Sly of Willits Compassion Connection in Willits, California


  • Participated in the first Bay Area Nonviolent Communication (BayNVC) Leadership Program (2001-2002).
  • Collaborative Trainer with BayNVC (2011-2014)
  • Participant in Miki Kashtan's Leveraging Your Impact Program, West Coast.
  • Co-founder of the BayNVC San Quentin Prison NVC Teaching Team  weekly offerings of NVC in prisons and jails (2002-2012). 
  • Two Years Contract working weekly with patients and staff at California Dept. of Corrections and Rehabilitation at Vacaville Mental Health Facility 


  • Founding Minister of The I Am Peace Spiritual Center, a Center for Spiritual Living (3+ years)

  • Staff Minister and Teen Youth Advisor for Ukiah, California Center for Spiritual Living (7 years)

  • Certified International Trainer with the Center for Nonviolent Communication since 2006

Upcoming Trainings

Tue, Nov 3, 2020

ZOOM COACHED ROLE PLAYS TUES 3-4pmPT NOV 3-10-17-24
COACHED ROLE PLAYS TUES ZOOM CALLS 3-4pmPT NOV 3-10-17-24 (Mair Alight, Gustavo Castilho) (ZOOM VIDEO CALL)

Live role plays, questions, comments, tips, possible breakout sessions TESTIMONIAL from Miki Kashtan: " I have known Mair since 2002, when she attended the BayNVC Leadership Program. I appreciate, in particular, her deep passion for meaning, her dedication to authenticity and full human connection, and her humor and courage in responding to challenges. I trust her understanding of NVC and her continued immersion in learning and clarifying concepts and processes. I am impressed by what I see as her ability to see and reach human beings across a wide range of demographics and experiences and offer meaningful healing and learning to others." - Miki Kashtan, Lead Trainer, Strategic Vision, Bay Area Nonviolent Communication (BayNVC) www.BayNVC.org What some people have told us about their zooming experiences with us: "It was helpful for me to access and name sadness. Usually, I get stuck in anger. Thank you. This was really helpful. I really liked the role play." "My take away today is the role playing framework. Take a pause, say less, go with the flow." "Role playing was very meaningful" "Thank you! Today was very helpful. I really liked the Q & A and role play. Really valuable.

Wed, Nov 4, 2020

WEDNESDAYS NOVEMBER 4,11,18,25 (4 calls) 5-6pmPT
NVC Introduction ZOOM VIDEO 4 Call Wednesday Series NOVEMBER 2020 (Mair Alight, Gustavo Castilho) (ZOOM VIDEO CALL)

NVC Introduction ZOOM VIDEO 4 Call Wednesday Series NOVEMBER 2020 (Mair Alight - CNVC Certified Trainer) Learn and practice the simple, practical, learnable, reliable tools of Nonviolent Communication. Profoundly change your ability to listen with curiosity (instead of blame and criticism) and speak with compassion for others while remaining true to yourself. Learn how to receive criticism without loss of self-esteem. READ LONG DESCRIPTION FOR MORE DETAILS AND TESTIMONIALS.

Mon, Nov 9, 2020

4 MON NOV ZOOM CALLS NOV 9,16,23,30 5-6pmPT
4 ZOOM CALLS NOV MONDAYS 9-16-23-30 5-6pmPT COACHED ROLE PLAYS (Mair Alight, Gustavo Castilho) (ZOOM VIDEO CALL)

Live COACHED role plays, questions, comments, tips, possible breakout sessions READ LONG DESCRIPTION FOR TESTIMONIALS.

Mon, Dec 7, 2020

MONDAYS DEC 7,14,21,28 (4 calls) 5-6pmPT
4 ZOOM CALLS DEC MONDAYS 5-6pmPT COACHED ROLE PLAYS (Mair Alight, Gustavo Castilho) (ZOOM VIDEO CALL)

Live COACHED role plays, questions, comments, tips, possible breakout sessions READ LONG DESCRIPTION FOR TESTIMONIALS.

Wed, Dec 9, 2020

WEDNESDAYS DECEMBER 9,16,23,30 (4 calls) 5-6pmPT
NVC Introduction ZOOM VIDEO 4 Call Wednesday Series DECEMBER 2020 (Mair Alight, Gustavo Castilho) (ZOOM VIDEO CALL)

NVC Introduction ZOOM VIDEO 4 Call Wednesday Series DECEMBER 2020 (Mair Alight - CNVC Certified Trainer) (Teleconference via your phone or laptop) Learn and practice the simple, practical, learnable, reliable tools of Nonviolent Communication. Profoundly change your ability to listen with curiosity (instead of blame and criticism) and speak with compassion for others while remaining true to yourself. Learn how to receive criticism without loss of self-esteem. READ LONG DESCRIPTION FOR MORE DETAILS AND TESTIMONIALS.

Practice Groups


VASHON ISLAND / 98070: Empathy Circle/NVC Practice with Mair Alight: Participants co-create our experience. Role plays, empathy dyads, small groups, games, exercises...We share our time for inclusion/care for all. We meet via ZOOM
Facilitated by Mair Alight, Empathy Specialist & CNVC Certified Trainer. Mair learned directly from Marshall Rosenberg (developer of NVC) and has been learning, teaching and practicing since 2000.   $20/session NOTE: No $ request for first time to see if you value the experience and want to return.
We meet via ZOOM VIDEO
Contact Mair Alight: 707-367-3432 (text preferred) or M a i r A l i g h t AT DOMAIN gmail~com

Special Interest: Beginning NVC, Intermediate NVC, Advanced NVC

Occurs Weekly on Thursdays from 2:00 PM to 4:00 PM