Mair Alight

(CNVC Certified Trainer)

Mair Alight


  • Developer of Jackal Cafe & Another Way spatial floor map used as a visual and experiential map of two "windows of perspective": Jackal/Judgement and Giraffe/Guessing.
  • Author  of "Compassionate Underwear Bear", a children's coloring book.  Compassionate Underwear Bear (CUB) guides two children lost in the woods to discover that blaming and complaining keep them lost - and sharing and caring help them find their way home. 
  • Co-Creator with Carol Chase of "Living NVC" DVD.
  • Author of "Tips and Tricks for Living NVC" 
  • Contributing author of stories in "The Healing Power of Empathy"

  • Trained and learned with Marshall Rosenberg (over 500 hours, multiple events including two International Intensive Trainings and an Experiment in Social Change, Switzerland (living with 65 people from 25 countries for 15 days) (2005)

  • Co-Creator of 4 weeks NVC Training in Addis Ababa, Ethiopia.
  • Co-Organizer, NVC Weekend Festival, August 2015, Vashon Island, Washington
  • Co-Founder with Aya Caspi, Showing Up For Love Teleseries for Parents and Grandparents (2013-2014).
  • Founder of NVC I Am Coaching Teleseries
  • Founder of Needs-Based Phone Empathy and Coaching Teleseries
  • Convener & Organizer of the October 2nd 24 Hour Global Empathy Call by phone or Skype. 2009-2015.
  • Chief Empathy Trainer, Empathy App Trial May/June 2014  (Empathy Connection with Live Empathizers in Real Time via Telephone).
  • Co-Founder with Fred Sly of Willits Compassion Connection in Willits, California


  • Participated in the first Bay Area Nonviolent Communication (BayNVC) Leadership Program (2001-2002).
  • Collaborative Trainer with BayNVC (2011-2014)
  • Participant in Miki Kashtan's Leveraging Your Impact Program, West Coast.
  • Co-founder of the BayNVC San Quentin Prison NVC Teaching Team  weekly offerings of NVC in prisons and jails (2002-2012). 
  • Two Years Contract working weekly with patients and staff at California Dept. of Corrections and Rehabilitation at Vacaville Mental Health Facility 


  • Founding Minister of The I Am Peace Spiritual Center, a Center for Spiritual Living (3+ years)

  • Staff Minister and Teen Youth Advisor for Ukiah, California Center for Spiritual Living (7 years)

  • Certified International Trainer with the Center for Nonviolent Communication since 2006

Upcoming Trainings

Mon, Nov 1, 2021

MONDAYS NOVEMBER 1, 8, 15, 22 (4 calls) 5-6pmPT
NVC Introduction ZOOM VIDEO 4 Call Monday Series 5pmPT (UTC -8) | NOVEMBER 2021 (Mair Alight, Gustavo Castilho Tech Support) (ZOOM VIDEO CALL)

NVC Introduction ZOOM VIDEO 4 Call Monday Series (Mair Alight - CNVC Certified Trainer) (Teleconference via your phone or laptop) Learn and practice the simple, practical, learnable, reliable tools of Nonviolent Communication. Profoundly change your ability to listen with curiosity (instead of blame and criticism) and speak with compassion for others while remaining true to yourself. Learn how to receive criticism without loss of self-esteem.

Wed, Nov 3, 2021

WEDNESDAY NOVEMBER 3, 10, 17, 24 (4 calls) 5-6pmPT (UTC -8)
NVC Introduction ZOOM VIDEO 4 Call Wednesday Series 5pmPT (UTC -8) | NOVEMBER 2021 (Mair Alight, Gustavo Castilho) (ZOOM VIDEO CALL)

NVC Introduction ZOOM VIDEO 4 Call Monday Series (Mair Alight - CNVC Certified Trainer) (Teleconference via your phone or laptop) Learn and practice the simple, practical, learnable, reliable tools of Nonviolent Communication. Profoundly change your ability to listen with curiosity (instead of blame and criticism) and speak with compassion for others while remaining true to yourself. Learn how to receive criticism without loss of self-esteem.

Thu, Nov 4, 2021

THURSDAY 4, 11, 18, 25 2pm-3pmPT (UTC -8)
Translating Hard-to-Hear Messages (from others and within yourself) 12pmPT (UTC -8) | NOVEMBER 2021 (Mair Alight, Gustavo Castilho) (ZOOM VIDEO CALL)

If you want more NVC Tools-Not-Rules to help you to not attack or defend, freeze or fly away when confronted by Jackal ABC's (Attacks,Blame Criticism), this is the call series for you.

Fri, Nov 5, 2021

FRIDAYS NOVEMBER 5, 12, 19, 26 (4 Calls) 7-8am PT (UTC -8)
How to Live NVC with people who won't change (without judging them for that) Friday 7amPT (UTC -8) | NOVEMBER 2021 (Mair Alight, Gustavo Castilho) (ZOOM VIDEO CALL)

How to Live NVC with people who won't change. Coached practice supporting you cosseting yourself tenderly. This is for you if you want to speak your truth without blame or criticism in a way that doesn't judge others. Learn and coached practice with NVC Tools-Not-Rules with Mair Alight, Empathy Specialist and CNVC Certified Trainer, who spent 500+ hours with Marshall Rosenberg, PhD, developer of NVC. If you are on the path of certification, or plan to be, these calls with Mair could count towards your training hours. Mair has been facilitating calls for over a decade and can navigate the needs and strategies to meet them with care and efficiency. Mair uses role plays, Q & A, stories, and songs. We share a google document with call recording links and call chats. Long description offers words from past participants about their experiences being on calls with Mair.

Practice Groups


VASHON ISLAND / 98070: Empathy Circle/NVC Practice with Mair Alight: Participants co-create our experience. Coached role plays, empathy dyads, small groups, games, exercises...We share our time for inclusion/care for all. We meet via ZOOM
Facilitated by Mair Alight, Empathy Specialist & CNVC Certified Trainer. Mair learned directly from Marshall Rosenberg (developer of NVC) and has been learning, teaching and practicing since 2000.   $20/session
We meet via ZOOM VIDEO
Contact Mair Alight: 707-367-3432 (text preferred) or M a i r A l i g h t AT DOMAIN gmail~com Time on Fridays to be decided.

To learn more about Mair please visit www.MairAlight.com. to find information about upcoming events, testimonials, biography,inner child blog and webstore.

The suggested donation is $20 per two hour session. Your contribution is very much appreciated. Money offered for practice groups is used to support Mair, and to add to a scholarship fund to support people with limited financial resources to learn and practice NVC call series... However don't let money hold you back—your presence is more important.

Special Interest: Beginning NVC, Intermediate NVC, Advanced NVC

Occurs Weekly on Thursdays from 12:00 PM to 1:00 PM