Mair Alight

(CNVC Certified Trainer)

Mair Alight


  • Developer of Jackal Cafe & Another Way spatial floor map used as a visual and experiential map of two "windows of perspective": Jackal/Judgement and Giraffe/Guessing.
  • Author  of "Compassionate Underwear Bear", a children's coloring book.  Compassionate Underwear Bear (CUB) guides two children lost in the woods to discover that blaming and complaining keep them lost - and sharing and caring help them find their way home. 
  • Co-Creator with Carol Chase of "Living NVC" DVD.
  • Author of "Tips and Tricks for Living NVC" 
  • Contributing author of stories in "The Healing Power of Empathy"

  • Trained and learned with Marshall Rosenberg (over 500 hours, multiple events including two International Intensive Trainings and an Experiment in Social Change, Switzerland (living with 65 people from 25 countries for 15 days) (2005)

  • Co-Creator of 4 weeks NVC Training in Addis Ababa, Ethiopia.
  • Co-Organizer, NVC Weekend Festival, August 2015, Vashon Island, Washington
  • Co-Founder with Aya Caspi, Showing Up For Love Teleseries for Parents and Grandparents (2013-2014).
  • Founder of NVC I Am Coaching Teleseries
  • Founder of Needs-Based Phone Empathy and Coaching Teleseries
  • Convener & Organizer of the October 2nd 24 Hour Global Empathy Call by phone or Skype. 2009-2015.
  • Chief Empathy Trainer, Empathy App Trial May/June 2014  (Empathy Connection with Live Empathizers in Real Time via Telephone).
  • Co-Founder with Fred Sly of Willits Compassion Connection in Willits, California


  • Participated in the first Bay Area Nonviolent Communication (BayNVC) Leadership Program (2001-2002).
  • Collaborative Trainer with BayNVC (2011-2014)
  • Participant in Miki Kashtan's Leveraging Your Impact Program, West Coast.
  • Co-founder of the BayNVC San Quentin Prison NVC Teaching Team  weekly offerings of NVC in prisons and jails (2002-2012). 
  • Two Years Contract working weekly with patients and staff at California Dept. of Corrections and Rehabilitation at Vacaville Mental Health Facility 


  • Founding Minister of The I Am Peace Spiritual Center, a Center for Spiritual Living (3+ years)

  • Staff Minister and Teen Youth Advisor for Ukiah, California Center for Spiritual Living (7 years)

  • Certified International Trainer with the Center for Nonviolent Communication since 2006

Upcoming Trainings

Mon, Mar 1, 2021

MONDAYS MAR 1-8-15-22 (4 calls) 4-5pmPT
NVC INTRO #2 - 4 ZOOM CALLS MAR MONDAYS 4-5pmPT (Mair Alight, Gustavo Castilho) (ZOOM VIDEO CALL)

Prerequisite:NVC INTRO #1 WEDNESDAYS WITH MAIR This series is a continuation of your journey learning and practicing the NVC Tools (Not Rules). If you have not taken NVC INTRO #1, contact Mair to see if we agree that this series would be a fit for you. Calls are recorded and shared with participants. READ LONG DESCRIPTION FOR TESTIMONIALS FROM Marshall Rosenberg, Miki Kashtan, Ike Lasatar, and past participants.

Tue, Mar 2, 2021

TUES 12-1pmPT MAR 2-9-16-23
Translating Hard-to-Hear Messages (from others and within yourself) (Mair Alight, Gustavo Castilho) (ZOOM VIDEO CALL)

If you want more tools (not rules) to help you to not attack or defend, freeze or fly away when confronted by attacks, blame and criticism, this is the call series for you. SEE LONG DESCRIPTION FOR TESTIMONIALS FROM Marshall Rosenberg, Miki Kashtan, Ike Lasatar, and past participants.

Wed, Mar 3, 2021

WEDNESDAYS MARCH 3, 10, 17, 24 (4 calls) 5-6pmPT
NVC Introduction ZOOM VIDEO 4 Call Wednesday Series MARCH 2021 (Mair Alight, Gustavo Castilho) (ZOOM VIDEO CALL)

NVC Introduction ZOOM VIDEO 4 Call Wednesday Series FEBRUARY 2021 (Mair Alight - CNVC Certified Trainer) (Teleconference via your phone or laptop) Learn and practice the simple, practical, learnable, reliable tools of Nonviolent Communication. Profoundly change your ability to listen with curiosity (instead of blame and criticism) and speak with compassion for others while remaining true to yourself. Learn how to receive criticism without loss of self-esteem. READ LONG DESCRIPTION FOR MORE DETAILS AND TESTIMONIALS FROM Marshall Rosenberg, Miki Kashtan, Ike Lasatar, and past participants

Thu, Mar 4, 2021

March 4, 11, 18, 25 10amPT/1pmET Thursdays
NVC NOW! for Dedicated Practitioners (Mair Alight, Gustavo Castilho Tech Support) (ZOOM VIDEO CALL)

This March 4, 11, 18, 25 10amPT Thursday weekly call series is for NVC dedicated practitioners who would like to have coaching support along with the company of other NVC dedicated practitioners. Each person chooses from 1-10 daily practices and from 1-3 affirmations, using a chart for accountability and ease in recording. Each week we will meet on a zoom video call to share our journey with each other. Needs Addressed: Personal Accountability/Responsibility, Acceptance, Support, Belonging, Understanding, Trust, Respect...and other needs…. Your registration confirmation email will provide your zoom ID# and Passcode. TESTIMONIAL FROM Marshall B. Rosenberg: "Mair Alight is one of sixty individuals from twenty-five countries selected by the Center for Nonviolent Communication to attend a Special Session on Social Change in July 2005 in Switzerland. The purpose of the session was to further the vision we have to create a world where all people are getting their needs met and resolving their conflicts peacefully. Mair Alight is committed to the vision of creating and participating in building worldwide networks of life-serving systems including, but not limited to education, economics, justice, health care, peace keeeping. It is my hope that you will support her in her efforts towards implementing social change." Warmly, Marshall B. Rosenberg, Ph.D, Founder and Director of Educational Services, The Center for Nonviolent Communication (www.cnvc.org) July, 2005 TESTIMONIAL from Miki Kashtan: " I have known Mair since 2002, when she attended the BayNVC Leadership Program. I appreciate, in particular, her deep passion for meaning, her dedication to authenticity and full human connection, and her humor and courage in responding to challenges. I trust her understanding of NVC and her continued immersion in learning and clarifying concepts and processes. I am impressed by what I see as her ability to see and reach human beings across a wide range of demographics and experiences and offer meaningful healing and learning to others." - Miki Kashtan, Lead Trainer, Strategic Vision, Bay Area Nonviolent Communication (BayNVC) www.BayNVC.org

Mon, Apr 5, 2021

MONDAYS APR 5-12-19-26 (4 calls) 4-5pmPT
NVC INTRO #2 - 4 ZOOM CALLS APR MONDAYS 4-5pmPT (Mair Alight, Gustavo Castilho) (ZOOM VIDEO CALL)

Prerequisite:NVC INTRO #1 WEDNESDAYS WITH MAIR This series is a continuation of your journey learning and practicing the NVC Tools (Not Rules). If you have not taken NVC INTRO #1, contact Mair to see if we agree that this series would be a fit for you. Calls are recorded and shared with participants. READ LONG DESCRIPTION FOR TESTIMONIALS FROM Marshall Rosenberg, Miki Kashtan, Ike Lasatar, and past participants.

Tue, Apr 6, 2021

TUES 12-1pmPT APR 6-13-20-27
Translating Hard-to-Hear Messages (from others and within yourself) (Mair Alight, Gustavo Castilho) (ZOOM VIDEO CALL)

If you want more tools (not rules) to help you to not attack or defend, freeze or fly away when confronted by attacks, blame and criticism, this is the call series for you. SEE LONG DESCRIPTION FOR TESTIMONIALS FROM Marshall Rosenberg, Miki Kashtan, Ike Lasatar, and past participants.

Wed, Apr 7, 2021

WEDNESDAYS APRIL 7-14-21-28 (4 calls) 5-6pmPT
NVC Introduction ZOOM VIDEO 4 Call Wednesday Series APRIL 2021 (Mair Alight, Gustavo Castilho) (ZOOM VIDEO CALL)

NVC Introduction ZOOM VIDEO 4 Call Wednesday Series FEBRUARY 2021 (Mair Alight - CNVC Certified Trainer) (Teleconference via your phone or laptop) Learn and practice the simple, practical, learnable, reliable tools of Nonviolent Communication. Profoundly change your ability to listen with curiosity (instead of blame and criticism) and speak with compassion for others while remaining true to yourself. Learn how to receive criticism without loss of self-esteem. READ LONG DESCRIPTION FOR MORE DETAILS AND TESTIMONIALS FROM Marshall Rosenberg, Miki Kashtan, Ike Lasatar, and past participants

Thu, Apr 8, 2021

April 8-15-22-29 10amPT/1pmET Thursdays
NVC NOW! for Dedicated Practitioners (Mair Alight, Gustavo Castilho) (ZOOM VIDEO CALL)

This April 8, 15, 22, 29 10amPT Thursday weekly call series is for NVC dedicated practitioners who would like to have coaching support along with the company of other NVC dedicated practitioners. Each person chooses from 1-10 daily practices and from 1-3 affirmations, using a chart for accountability and ease in recording. Each week we will meet on a zoom video call to share our journey with each other. Needs Addressed: Personal Accountability/Responsibility, Acceptance, Support, Belonging, Understanding, Trust, Respect...and other needs…. Your registration confirmation email will provide your zoom ID# and Passcode. TESTIMONIAL FROM Marshall B. Rosenberg: "Mair Alight is one of sixty individuals from twenty-five countries selected by the Center for Nonviolent Communication to attend a Special Session on Social Change in July 2005 in Switzerland. The purpose of the session was to further the vision we have to create a world where all people are getting their needs met and resolving their conflicts peacefully. Mair Alight is committed to the vision of creating and participating in building worldwide networks of life-serving systems including, but not limited to education, economics, justice, health care, peace keeeping. It is my hope that you will support her in her efforts towards implementing social change." Warmly, Marshall B. Rosenberg, Ph.D, Founder and Director of Educational Services, The Center for Nonviolent Communication (www.cnvc.org) July, 2005 TESTIMONIAL from Miki Kashtan: " I have known Mair since 2002, when she attended the BayNVC Leadership Program. I appreciate, in particular, her deep passion for meaning, her dedication to authenticity and full human connection, and her humor and courage in responding to challenges. I trust her understanding of NVC and her continued immersion in learning and clarifying concepts and processes. I am impressed by what I see as her ability to see and reach human beings across a wide range of demographics and experiences and offer meaningful healing and learning to others." - Miki Kashtan, Lead Trainer, Strategic Vision, Bay Area Nonviolent Communication (BayNVC) www.BayNVC.org

Practice Groups


VASHON ISLAND / 98070: Empathy Circle/NVC Practice with Mair Alight: Participants co-create our experience. Role plays, empathy dyads, small groups, games, exercises...We share our time for inclusion/care for all. We meet via ZOOM
Facilitated by Mair Alight, Empathy Specialist & CNVC Certified Trainer. Mair learned directly from Marshall Rosenberg (developer of NVC) and has been learning, teaching and practicing since 2000.   $20/session
We meet via ZOOM VIDEO
Contact Mair Alight: 707-367-3432 (text preferred) or M a i r A l i g h t AT DOMAIN gmail~com

Special Interest: Beginning NVC, Intermediate NVC, Advanced NVC

Occurs Weekly on Thursdays from 2:00 PM to 4:00 PM